Teach your kids to NOT be Assholes!

I can't believe this even needs to be a thing that has to be talked about. You would think that its human decency to teach your kids to treat others with respect. I for one am thrilled that when it was my time to be a teenager it wasn't posted all over social media. However now a days, it is!!

How is it that your little angel can't see that on the other side of the keyboard is a real human being. A human being with feelings, thoughts, emotions, a family that also will see the things you post. Its like being a keyboard warrior negates the fact that your a bully. Like you can't be a bully cause its happening online. WAKE UP PARENTS!!!!!!! check what your children are getting into. Follow their numerous social media accounts, make sure they are not treating another child like a piece of garbage to make themselves feel better because if they are that's on YOU! For the amount of suicides that happen anymore , we as adults should be taking more precautions, should be checking more often, should be keeping our kids ACCOUNTABLE for the things they do and get caught for.

I know it seems like I kind of dove right into this blog post but quite frankly I'm sick and tired of hearing about groups of kids ganging up on individuals they dont deem as important. NEWSFLASH! Every kid is important to someone so if your little angel is constantly berating another ,DEAL with it!!! Don't allow it to keep happening. Take privileges away, do something, anything to make it stop. The ones these kids are picking on can only stay strong for so long, then what????????

We are in an age of so called gentle parenting and listen, I don't give a shit how you raise your kid. Breastfeed or don't, let them sleep in your bed or not, let them cry it out or pick them up.. I could care less how you do it. Teach your kid that the world doesn't revolve around them. Teach them that in order to get respect we all have to give it. Teach them everyone matters to someone. Teach them what they post ONLINE will always be there. When they are parents themselves and trying to teach their kids the last thing that needs to pop up is a website they made to bully another kid.

Moral of my rant, teach your kids not to be complete assholes because I'm going to teach my kid to stand up for themselves. At some point walking away isn't an option! Then what, it's my kid thats the bully right?

(Please note, neither one of my kids are being bullied but I am sick to my stomach about the stories I do hear of others)

~Rae~

Merry Christmas and the ELVES!

Anyone else having a bunk ass time with this facking ELF!!!!

My kids are at the point where we aren't quite sure if they BELIEVE in the jolly fat man or not. My husband and I are convinced that my son knows we are Santa but is scared shitless to call us out on our lifelong lies for fear he gets a shitty present after that. My daughter however lives and breathes for this stuffed little shit that we have to move around every night. The women that made this fictional character up must be rolling in loads of cash that they are collecting in Elves, elf clothing, elf stuffed toys (like reindeer) , elf books, pajamas.. the list goes on. I'm going to lay money on the fact that they don't even have an elf for their home or have to move these assholes around every night making a mess of your clean home in the name of Christmas.

I'm really not against Christmas spirit. It's just that my older kid has developed insomnia along with these wonderful hormones and NEVER EVER sleeps. Last night it was midnight and he was still flopping back and forth in bed. At this point my husband and I were so tired that we were calling not it and getting pissed off at each other for the other one dozing off ,again for fear we forget to move the little pecker head. I have tried to set alarms, all that does is wake me up at the butt ass of dawn and I cant go back to sleep. I would stop doing it all together except for the fact that my daughter is so in love with these little shit disturbers and I could never break her heart like that. Maybe I'm a bit of a grinch.. I don't really give a shit. I am however counting down the hours until I don't have to worry about moving them anymore. YES < THEM!! We have 2 because we have 2 kids, more money for the women that came up with this hairbrained scheme...

However, until my kids come out right and tell me they don't believe anymore, I will continue to soldier on. We do not use the elves to bribe them into good behavior because.. for the most part they are really well behaved. The joy that it brings to my daughters face really is irreplaceable. It really does embody the magic of Christmas when she comes running out to see what they have done. I'm not ready to give up all the magic just yet. Who knows how many more of these magical Christmases I will get, they will soon be too grown up and too cool for matching pj's and letters to Santa. I will continue to move those fuckers around every night, even if it means cleaning toothpaste that the elves used to write with off the bathroom mirror... that I of course just cleaned.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years to ALL OF YOU!!!

~Rae~

ANXIETY the asshole.

Ladies and gentlemen I introduce you to Anxiety ,the asshole in your life. You know that personality trait that kind of attaches itself to you without you wanting or getting to have a say. The trait that clings to your soul even though you are desperately pulling away not wanting to go down with that ship. I suffer from major anxiety and I think most people suffer from a form of it. The problem lies with other assholes that judge you for feeling this way without fully understanding it.

I read an article recently that mentioned one person saying to the other, just don't think that way. I thought, Oh yes because that never fucking occurred to me, fer fuck sakes. Obviously if someone suffers from some form of mental health issues and could change it by just not thinking that way … THEY WOULD!!

Anxiety for me feels like I'm never good enough, like my husband is always going to leave me to find someone better. Anxiety for me is lying in bed worrying about things I did when I was 5, worrying that people will judge me for my weight ( that I am constantly trying to control, with no luck) , worrying about dumb things I did when I was a teenager and drunk. I worry about my kids constantly ( like never ever off my mind) . I worry about cars and driving.. for some reason it's a major fear of mine. I worry that family members will hate me for something silly. I worry my dedication to my work will not show. I make myself sick with worry whenever someone picks up a custom order. I am a perfectionist with a little bit of fucking OCD in there. Sounds like a walk in the park , eh?

My point to this blog is that you never know what someone else is struggling with. I am hoping that by writing these blogs with experiences that I have had in my real life more will realize that other people struggle too. Your never ever alone. Just because someone hides behind Facebook with happy pictures of smiling families doesn't mean that they don't have secrets or obstacles to over come in their life. I sometimes post not so happy things and I have been judged for it more times than I can count. Its because I am a real human being. I have thoughts and feelings and I am willing to bet you do too but are just to scared of also being judged to mention it. I have posted a few blogs about my kids, again this is not to embarrass them but to let other moms know WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH IT. Lets support each other rather tear each other down. Lets talk about it so we don't feel like we have to pretend everything is perfect because we all know that SHIT is exhausting!!!!

Please if any of you need to talk, reach out.. I'm happy to chat and share my own personal experiences so that we don't continue to raise our kids thinking things are always perfect, because they aren't... things can be tough but its how we are taught to deal with tough things that matters.

~RAE~